July 2017 - and a little bit of June and August

As usual, July has flown by!

We wrapped up June at EYL Camp and you had such a great time playing with your "new friend Lane" (as you still call him). We also used that week leading up to AMC Awareness Day as a challenge week - each day we had different staff and volunteers participate in a challeneg related to your limitations with AMC. Once again, our EYL Family stepped up to the plate and were SO supportive of helping us out. Mr. Brent even made the camp shirts blue this year so that the group photo on June 30 could also serve as a #BlueforAMC photo!

Challenge #1: Say "Arthrogryposis Multiplex Congenita" three times as fast as you can

Challenge #2: Write "Arthrogryposis" without using your hands

Challenge #3: Go up and down the stairs without using your legs

Thank you to everyone who sent us a picture of your blue shirts / outfits to support AMC Awareness Day on June 30!

We had a little down time at the beginning of July so we stepped up our timetable and got our living room floor taken care of! It has been a huge plus to have smoother floors now that you're double casted and can't use your scooter - makes it easier for you to stay on the move!

Grandpa had a little pry bar for you to help!

Not a huge fan of the noise from the saw :)

We went to watch fireworks with Aunt C and the boys - you were NOT a fan of how loud they were...but eventually decided they were too pretty to not watch them.

Excuse the blue teeth - sugar cookie frosting :)

And then we had the big event of July: your first foot surgery! They had originally told us it would be a 2(ish) hour surgery; just when we were getting to the two hour mark and I was getting stuff ready to wait for the "all done" call, they called and said they needed another 1.5-2 hours!! Yikes!! But when Dr. B came in afterward he was very excited about the positioning he was able to get with your bones and the end result so I guess the extra time was worth it :)

Pre-Op meds made you super silly and sleepy!

Finally got to get out of bed... that's what you chose for breakfast (Fritos)

We were in the hospital overnight, went home the next day, spent some time with sisters, and have just been hanging out...NOT standing up... at least trying to remind you not to stand on it. If too much weight is put on the foot it can cause the pins to slip and the bones to shift enough that he woukd have to re-do the surgery. You've spent a lot of time reading books, playing babies and watching movies; especially the first few days when you were getting used to having two casts on!

Tuesday (Aug 1) we went back for your first cast change in the left foot and he said everything looked good for both feet. Second surgery will be sometime in the later part of September, which is later than we thought but glad it's not the first week of school!

Wednesday (Aug 2) you had your developmental check-up. He wants to continue following you (still) just so we have someone we can call on when it's time to start kindergarten if we get any push back about you being in regular ed classes instead of special ed (not that we're anticipating any) and to help write letters for any accommodations you might need - we're still not sure what adaptive / assistive technology or modifications you might need. He wants to see you back in February instead of another 12 months because they will be able to do an official cognitive exam - those are tailored for 4 years and above and even though you are still testing a 4+ year old level they can't administer the test yet.

That's about it for this round! 

End of May and June 2017 - June 21

I've been awful about updating - and we've had some big things to share! Summer jumped into the picture WAY to soon and now I loom up and it's almost July...

So here goes:

You finished your first official "year" of school - and we got the good news that you will have the same teacher next year so I'm hoping it doesn't take another 3-4 months for you to settle in and be comfortable enough to start participating again! This next year, at least at home, we will be working a lot on hand work: writing, drawing, etc. Due to your foot surgeries and the casting issues that will require you to be off your feet until mid-October I figure it will be a good time to get busy with that so when you hit kindergarten we will have a better idea of whether or bot you will beed any assistive / adaptive technology or not. We had a great time at your end of school picnic and the teachers gave us these cute planters you helped make with your fingerprints so now you have "my own gardens!" - we are just waiting for your seeds to sprout!! 

We got started with casting on June 5. You tolerate the cast fairly well during the day - it definitely hasn't slowed you down any!! We are having a hard time making you understand that you can NOT stand up in your cast...I have a feeling after the first surgery you will get it! The first few nights were rough; you didn't quite understand why we couldn't take off your cast like we do your pink boots (HKFOs) so you could sleep. You woke up a few times each night for about a week before you finally settled into sleeping with it.

They opted to use a soft casting material because 1) it's easier on the skin so better for long term use; 2) they don't have to cut it off with a cast saw, it just unrolls. Unfortunately, that means it's not as stiff as a typical plaster cast so any amount of pressure can cause it to crack or shift and effect the angle they are trying to stretch your foot to. Downside number two is that it only comes in white, but we took care of that pretty quickly!!

We went back on June 19 for your first re-casting and they were really happy with the stretch and how much more loose your foot is. The first thing you asked when they took it off was "I stand up? I do nastics??" You have absolutely missed getting to do gymnastics with Little Big so you got a couple of your handstands and splits in before they recast you. We also noticed that your entire leg is much straighter - you were having to lean to stand with both feet on the table because of the nice stretch you're getting on your knee as well!

We are still on schedule for surgery on July 19, although we did find out it will be 18 weeks total casting instead of 12 like we originally thought because there is also a 6 week post-op casting period! So six weeks pre-op on the right leg, six weeks post-op right AND pre-op left, then six weeks post-op left THEN we can start PT work on regaining leg strength and walking again.

On June 20 we had a GI appointment and he pretty much told us to keep doing what we're doing because it's obviously working! You are now eating about 1/3 of your daily calories by mouth - and you eat just about everything! There are a few things you don't like, but for the most part you "want dis and dat" and whatever else is on our plates whether you know what it is or not! We'll run labs again in December to check allergies and nutrient level, but other than that we're clear to keep pushing forward!

Your favorite is still "sumsketti" but you also keep cheerios, krispies, crackers, chicken, yogurt, pretzels, toast, apples with peanut butter, apple sauce and cookies on rotation!

You've loved having Nanny around the last two weeks (and we'll have next week as well) and Mama has greatly appreciated the help as I was gone for a week, then exhausted and trying to get caught up and ready for everyone to be scattered again next week!

You got to go to your first non-family member birthday party and LOVED seeing your friends from school! You spent the next three days telling anyone and everyone you saw about how much fun you had and what presents she got and what games you played and... Needless to say, you enjoyed it :)

That's about it for now - will try to keep things updated after next week as we move closer to surgery #1!

April and May 2017 - Getting Caught Up

April was a pretty calm month - not a lot to report on! You had a fun time going with Patches to his training classes and got pretty good at telling him to sit. So good in fact, that your teach told us you started telling the other students "No. Sit." very forcefully and commanding-ly (??) when they would try to stand up during circle time. Proud parenting moments. In particular, you have enjoyed the fact that the classes take place in the park where there are slides and swings!

We did have an appointment with the Pulminologist and while she isn't ready to discharge you quite yet, she did move you to an every 12-month appointment. Between 5 and 6 years old she wants to do some lung function tests and continue monitoring those results to give us a better idea of what to expect as you continue growing.

May has been a whirlwind; I can hardly believe we're already at the end of the school year! Your speech therapy has been decreased to once a week because your feeding issues have significantly improved! Now their primary focus is clearing up some articulation issues and working on conversational speaking.

Biggest news from May is that we scheduled your first foot surgery - we will start casting on June 5 and have your surgery on July 19. While I am not looking forward to you having to be off your feet for 12 weeks, and in a cast all summer when you are just starting to fall in love with the water, I am excited for this procedure to be taken care of. It should be the last major procedure until you are between 7 and 10. I am also thankful that our PT encouraged us to go ahead and get the power chair process taken care of so that you are already used to driving your chair around. It will be interesting to start transporting that with us all summer long!

We are working on reducing your tube feeds - your oral intake has shot up in the last few months and you started telling me "no green food" more often because your tummy was too full for anything else. I've been playing around with your blend and have figured out a few options (one for on the road and one for at home) to get the same amount of calories into you, but at a lower volume so you can still eat. There are days when I feel like that's all you do - your food list has expanded greatly: cheerios, fruit loops, pretzels, crackers, chips, chicken, french fries, broccoli, carrots, corn, apples and peanut butter, bananas, potatoes, sweet potatoes and (most importantly) SOMEGHETTI! You will eat and eat and eat if we have spaghetti.

We had some fun last week with a photo shoot we've been wanting to do since Christmas but just now made the time for - you and your babies in your Frozen outfits and matching boots! I am so so so thrilled with the way the shots turned out, and to start working with your Loftstrand Crutches! I don't know that we'll get them figured out before casting starts and you're off your feet for three months but you've had fun trying the last few days!

I think that's all for now - my brain is a little fried with end-of-school activities and appointments and schedules so I'm sure I forgot something! June and July will be busy, exciting, different and anxiety-inducing (at least for me) so I'm sure there will be a lot to report on then!

March 2017

So since it's a third of the way through April and I'm just now getting around to the March updates, we're just going to pretend like the February one already happened... don't worry there weren't any major updates, which is why I never felt the need to write it. March however had some big things!

In February, we had to switch speech therapists. The ST that has been with us since you came home (the first time!) switched agencies and weren't able to move over with her. Your new ST has been amazing though and after a couple sessions of testing the waters with her, you spent most of March showing off everything that you know! Unfortunately, that means you are racing through all your goals and she has already started warning me that our sessions will probably get cut at the end of the month. 

You got to have your first capitol day in March also! We met up with a bunch of other families to meet with legislators about the cuts in therapy funding and the switch from Medicaid to STARKids, which has been fairly disastrous across the state. It was quite the experience - much different than other advocacy days that I've taken part in...mostly because I've never had to navigate the building with a stroller before! More details about that day can be found here.

We had a great time over Spring Break! We spent the first few days with Nanny and Grandpa fishing, driving the tractor, playing hide and seek through unfinished walls and burning marshmallows every evening.

The next week we had an appointment with your ENT and you were discharged!!! She said unless we started having any issues, that there was no reason for her to see you anymore! Dr. B has been absolutely amazing and I am so glad she was on your team, and although it's weird to think we won't be seeing her anymore, it's a phenomenal feeling to know that you are doing so well that we get to start dropping specialists! Maybe we'll have similar news with your pulmonary appointment later this month.

You had an absolute last at Cousin L5's birthday party and have already started talking about when we go back to Chuck E. Cheese "in December for Lexi's birthday"... I love watching you and L5 play together - you got to spend a couple hours at their house one Saturday when I had to take Patches to his obedience class and spent the next several days telling me stories about it and how it was "so much fun!"

Last big update: you had an appointment at Shriners at the end of the month and they were so thrilled with your progress that we are ready to move forward with your vertical talus surgery! It's quite a process so we don't have dates yet - they said they are estimating 2-2.5 hours for surgery on each foot so they want to do them one at a time. Each foot has to be cast for 6 weeks before (changing the cast every 2 weeks) so we're looking at a 12 week process. During that time you are not allowed ANY weight bearing so I am especially thankful we have the power chair now!

If you want more medical details about the surgery here's a good site; simply put, both of your talus bones are not laying the way they should be. The casting will help make the foot as flexible as possible by pulling your foot down (think of a ballerina pointing her toes down) which is why you will be recast every two weeks - a little more stretch each time. They will then go in and put the bones in place. After the surgery you will actually have less mobility and flexibility in your foot, but the structure and stability will be what it needs to be for walking.

What we're waiting on now is for them to look at the surgery schedule for the second foot, back up six weeks for casting and make sure that aligns with the first surgery and then back up six more weeks for casting. Should know more specifics in the next 2-3 weeks (they told me to give them 4-6 weeks; but if I haven't heard after 4 weeks to call and check in...) but once the process starts we'll have a total of 8 trips to Houston and back, with 4-5 days there for each surgery...should be fun to try to schedule

We wrapped up the month with the PTA carnival at school where you had a blast. Unfortunately, you have decided now that you are "a big girl now because I played with the big kids at my school." 

Those are the major updates - now for the cute stuff: 

Ignore the hair - we've been working on the books of the Bible. This was actually in mid-February; now you can make it all the way to Ecclesiastes without any prompting!

Another big highlight in March - you VERY QUICKLY picked up on riding your bike!

Last bit of adorable: we've been working on training with Patches and you are determined to not be left out in having someone to boss around!

January 2017

So I really did intend to get caught up on everything in January - it just didn't happen. So instead, I'm adding it to my "beginning of the month" list to at least post monthly.

So January big events:

Starting school!! We had a rough first week of whining every day and crying, but starting week two you have LOVED going! I get a full report of who was there and who was absent, what songs you sang in music, what games you played in PE (even what color the ball you played with was). You have "learned my ABCs again" about five times now. You even helped the teacher teach all of the numbers to the rest of the class.

You got new AFOs (boots) and HKFOs (full leg braces) and it has made a HUGE difference in you wanting to walk. The old ones had gotten small enough that they were hurting your feet too badly to spend more than 20-30 minutes in them. NOW - you are getting to the point that you are walking without the boots on at all! Our next goal will be work on your endurance (right now you can barely make it across the living room) and building up your leg muscles.

Probably the biggest moment of January though, was getting your power chair! We finally got the call that it was ready for a final fitting; we spent about an hour one day getting it all set up and ready to go! You have done really well learning how to use it and drive straight. We got a ramp installed at our front door, a lift for the back of the car and are ready to go! When we first started the approval process for the power chair, you had not started walking yet and we were planning on this being your method of movement at school; now however, everyone agrees - YOU DON'T NEED IT! At least not at school - you are doing so well walking and we definitely want that to continue! But we now have the chair for longer excursions (like if we wanted to go to the zoo or were going out of town and would be doing a lot of walking) and are very thankful we have that option to fall back on so that you can maintain your independence.

Other fun moments this month:

"Mama I eated my sagetti...I washa hands now!!"

Everything has become a seat...

Mimi found a toy that (almost) all of the Ls got into - Lincoln Logs!!

And here are a few more songs that you've been singing lately:

AMC Awareness Day - Sept 14

AMC Awareness day is June 30 of each year. This year I had the unique opportunity to tell your story and share about AMC while we were at EYL Camp. In addition, the group took up a collection that we were able to take to the AMCSI Conference the very next week - what great timing!

You're probably asking, what does all of that stuff that happened in June / July have to do with a post in September? I've had several people ask me about the presentation I gave at camp and I FINALLY got it made into a video to be able to share with everyone! Building the presentation took quite a bit of mental (and emotional) effort - it was both amazing to look back at how far you've come and heart-breaking to look at how close we came to losing you a couple of times!

So here is that video:

Now for the fun part: you have made SO MUCH progress since June!!! Going back to the presentation just two short months later, it amazes me how out of date it already is!

We got your trach stoma closed in early August so we are completely through with that. Just yesterday we had a follow up with the ENT and she cleared you for aqua therapy - which is great because you LOVE the water!

She was pretty sad though because she is out of reasons to keep seeing you! She went ahead and scheduled one more check up in 6 months "just to make sure", but after that we are down one specialist! It's a bitter sweet thought because Dr. B has seen us through so much and has always been open and honest and direct with me about what's going on!

The clips in the video presentation show you slowly moving in your walker, but in the last two weeks it has finally clicked that you can go on your own and now YOU ARE GONE! You started chasing puppies at our family reunion over Labor Day and every day since then (with the exception of one or two) you have spent at least 25-30 minutes walking. We've gone from spending 30-45 minutes in your HKFOs to almost 3-4 hours straight - which the doctors at Shriners should be thrilled about. At the last visit they said they wanted us to work up to 7-8 hours a day and we almost laughed because we thought we were doing good to get the 45 minutes!!

My favorite walking experience in the last couple of weeks would have to be you walking into the NICU yesterday and getting to see your doctor, a few nurses, AND your PT, OT and ST all happened to be right there when you walked in. There might have been a few tears.

It is so hard to believe that we have only been home for two years now; but at the same time, every time we go back to visit it feels like a lifetime ago!

Most of our walking has been done outside - you've now mastered walking in grass, on sidewalks, going uphill and downhill, on asphalt and on dirt paths. Our neighbors have been pretty patient with us as we take up the entire sidewalk...and walk down the middle of the street sometimes.

Having family close by has given us a walking goal as well - the first week we were walking outside and you got it in your head to walk to Mimi and Papa's house (at the other end of the block). We made it across the cul-de-sac and past one more driveway before you gave up - but have asked a couple of times since then to walk there again! You've also really enjoyed taking your walker to Bible class and walking around the church building.

Slowly but surely making it to Mimi and Papa's house!

Took about 20 minutes, but she was determined!

EYL Camp - July 10

I've been working on this post for a few days now and trying to het things finished enough to be posted, but in between EYL Camp in Kerrville and now, we went to Tulsa for the AMCSI Conference and then I flew to Texarkana for EYL Round 2 so it took a bit longer than I thought it would.

You were so much more comfortable at camp this year - you really opened up and talked to so many more people! You had a great time with Nanny and LOVED helping her drive her chair. You got pretty good at it by the end of the week, but still haven't grasped the concept of holding the controller down to keep it going. Nanny said you had some pretty jerky rides a few times!

You actually ate really well this year at camp - which is usually not the case when we're away from home! You had a blast going to the dining hall every day and helping Mama count as the participants came in, giving high fives and waving and clapping to everyone.

The biggest part of the week for us this year was June 30 - Arthrogryposis Awareness Day. We were given the chance to share our family's story and present some information about AMC and how it has effected our lives. 

The participants were given the opportunity to donate money to AMCSI as part of the Big Give activity (in the past we've collected school supplies, sports equipment for an after school program, etc.) In less than three hours, they collected almost $500 for us to bring with us to the AMCSI Conference in Tulsa! We are so blessed that there are so many people who love and support our family, and this was an amazing out pouring of their love!

We took a big group camp picture this year and got some great shots with the students holding their blue bracelets up high in support of AMC Awareness Day!

It was a great week and you definitely have some more friends and fans after those few days!

AMCSI Conference - July 9

I know it has been too long since I posted an update, and there is a ton that I need to update on, but I wanted to take a moment to write a post about the AMCSI Conference that we attended over the last few days.

Wow.

That's all I have to say. From the moment we walked in, I was encouraged. Seeing people of all ages and from all walks of life, with and without AMC, gathered together in one place was... Just so encouraging. We got there right in time to walk into the newcomers reception (literally, out of the car to the meeting room) and you immediately began asking for your scooter because after being in the car for so long you wanted to move. Then people started introducing themselves and you had a tons of claps and a loud YAYYYYY for each one of them.

Within 15 minutes, we had been introduced to 6 other families from Texas - including one who lives literally 10 miles away from is. In New Braunfels. Down our street. RIGHT THERE. Apparently, there used to be quite a large grouping of Texas families who met up fairly regularly around the state but that has fallen off some. There are a handful of families in the San Antonio area who are wanting to get things going again so YAY! 

The second day, we heard from an amazing young woman from Peru who has put together a series of videos and who speaks to AMCers about finding their own way of doing things "My Way". We also got to hear from a doctor who is HUGE on going as far and as long as possible with bracing on feet before opting for surgery, 1) because there is a higher chance of relapsing issues the younger you do surgery and 2) it causes more chronic pain issues later in life the more surgeries you have. Interesting tidbit: the foot starts developing in the first 4 weeks of being pregnant and is completely developed by 8 weeks. By the time most women find out they are pregnant, the foot is as developed as it is going to get until birth. Amazing.

I got to go to a volunteer meeting and will hopefully get plugged in to the conference planning committee and helping the Texas group get a few meet-ups off the ground! After that I went to a session that gave advice on three or four practical, realistic stress relief techniques while Daddy and Grandpa went to a session about DIY Equipment for therapy and exercising. 

There were special sessions for Moms, Dads and Grandparents that were lead as peer to peer discussion groups and I was able to connect with some more AMAZING moms about what's working, what's not, ideas to try, and just talk about our kids (because what mom doesn't like to do that?!?).

By far, the best session was on advocating for your child - SO much information, so many ideas and so many things to consider!!!

I think the biggest benefit to the conference was seeing all of the other families  and AMCers - it was a great reminder of how far we have come, how blessed we are with your doctors/therapists/nurses and all of the support we have at home. It will continue to be something we try to attend as often as we can just for the support and encouragement.

Thank you, thank you, thank you to everyone involved with AMCSI and to the conference planning team for all your hard work!

(Lexi and I with the Board of Directors for AMCSI)